The headlines these days are dominated by encounters, many of them unwanted, violent and deadly. While most of us watch them on screens, as opposed to in person, they still apparently provoke a similar physiological effect as they would if we were there at the scene.
As a result, there are those who believe we are suffering from a “national trauma,” and they may be right. Not to avoid that ugly reality, but perhaps seeking a way to cope with it, I’m seeking other types of encounters these days of a more nourishing variety.
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Yearning for balance as well as a respite from the news and the sheer weight of it all, I find comfort in walking outside, connecting with friends and gardening. Also, by reading books and long feature articles in the New Yorker.
But lately, even those options haven’t done the trick. Being retired and having too much time on my hands, I’ve somewhat guiltily turned to bingeing on melodramatic series on Netflix, like “The Diplomat,” “Virgin Spring,” and, most recently, the 2018 Korean romantic drama, “Encounter.”
I realize this may not be a genre that appeals to everybody, but what is compelling to me about “Encounter” is the sincerity and the excruciatingly slow pace of the developing love affair between a divorced hotel magnate (Song Hye-kyo) and her much younger colleague (Park Bo-gum). The characters first encounter one another by chance as strangers in a foreign land (Cuba).
In real life, Song is 12 years older than Park, but in appearance, at least by Western standards, they both could be teenagers who would probably get carded at a bar. Song has long been considered one of the most beautiful women in Korea and Park has a boyish beauty to complement hers.
Ignore the schmaltz and the soft but melodramatic soundtrack and some things lost in translation. Because both actors are superb, especially Song, whose character is layered with complexity. The pace at which the two of them get together may be glacial by Western standards, but the key to this story’s appeal is that we share this extended state of anticipation. And of course, anticipation of the romantic kind is one the most powerful emotional states we will ever experience in real life, so there’s that.
I’m guessing that the same experts I mentioned above would say that we may undergo a similar physiological response when watching such an encounter as if we were experiencing it ourselves.
In any case, even though it was vicariously, I found myself hanging on every twist and turn during this particular Encounter.
HEADLINES:
The U.S. Is Experiencing ‘National Trauma’ — And It Explains Why So Many Of Us Feel Miserable (HuffPost)
Donald Trump Can Be Stopped (Atlantic)
Judge Orders ICE Chief to Appear in Court Over Potential Contempt (NYT)
Fatal ICE shootings in Minneapolis are forcing CEOs to speak out (Business Insider)
Ilhan Omar Is Attacked During Town Hall on Immigration Crackdown (NYT)
How Alex Pretti’s killing broke through the internet’s traditionally apolitical spaces (WP)
Greg Bovino Loses His Job (Atlantic)
Democrats amp up calls to ‘immediately fire’ Kristi Noem after Alex Pretti killing (Guardian)
Minneapolis shooting scrambles Second Amendment politics for Trump (AP)
How the Supreme Court Made Alex Pretti’s Killing More Likely (Slate)
The government is barreling toward a partial shutdown over DHS funding. Here’s what to expect (CNBC)
They sought asylum for helping U.S. forces fight the Taliban. Now they’re fleeing Trump’s America (SFC)
If the Trump administration can’t trust Tulsi Gabbard, who can? (The Hill)
U.S. Population Growth Slows Sharply as Immigration Numbers Plunge (NYT)
Trump aides declared 16 DHS shootings since July justified before probes completed (WP)
Right now, ‘nothing feels right’ in Minneapolis. An NBA basketball game is no exception (The Athletic)
Philip Glass Withdraws From Kennedy Center, as Its Symphony Vows to Play On (NYT)
Trump says Iran wants a deal as U.S. “armada” arrives (Axios)
Inside a tech company’s secretive plan to destroy millions of books (WP)
Social Media Giants Face Landmark Legal Tests on Child Safety (NYT)
AI robot brings emotional care to pets (Fox)
Not ready for robots at home? Friendly new humanoid maker thinks it may change minds (ABC)
This Humanoid Is Ready to Bring You a Toothbrush (Wired)
Trump’s use of AI images pushes new boundaries, further eroding public trust, experts say (AP)
ICE Issues Ransom Note Demanding $65 Billion If U.S. Wants To See Minnesota Again (Onion)
