It's time for me to make some amends, with a few of my readers in the Midwest, who took offense at my description of Gary, Indiana, as an "industrial wasteland" the other night. To begin with, I invite you to review the Comments from Danogram and from Dave Yaros. You may also wish to visit
Dave's Den, for an alternative view of Gary.
Funny thing is both commentators reacted as if I were part of the coastal elites, who look down on the Midwest (and the South), and frequently refer to them as the "flyover zone." But I'm not like that, and I've always resented the phrase myself.
Working primarily for employees based on San Francisco and Los Angeles the past four decades, I've taken many business trips. Although some have been to Chicago or Atlanta or Winston-Salem, the vast majority have been to New York and Washington.
East Coast-West Coast. West Coast-East Coast. That's the routine.
For one stretch I lived on both coasts simultaneously; my job out here and my home back there. I'd commute home every weekend.
But, I've never lost my love of my roots. The deciduous trees and berries of the Midwest make me feel at home. The pan fish and bass from freshwater lakes still taste best to me. The way that you can make a friend, and count on that person to remain a friend over time is a poignant memory in the more transient coastal cities, where friends tend to come and go, some clearly driven by whether you are "up" or "down" at the moment.
That said, I've managed to form lasting friendships with all kinds of wonderful people in the Bay Area, as well as in New York and Washington. Nothing is gained, however, without something else getting lost.
I remember one stormy night, years ago, flying to New York. The route was full of turbulence. At one point, the pilot came on and reported that through a break in the clouds, we could see the city of Flint, Michigan, below. I rushed to a window and stared until it had long passed out of sight.
My parents were down there. They lived and worked in Flint. Their backyard had the most delicious raspberries I'd ever tasted. But I was in a hard-charging point in my career, and I had not been able to visit for a long time.
The nostalgia hung over me all the rest of the way to New York. As I took a taxi into my hotel, I was struck by a terrible loneliness. I really wanted nothing more than to go home to Mom and Dad, but I had a job to do, and a family out west depending on me to do it well.
You can take the boy out of the Midwest, but you can't take the Midwest out of the boy. I'm sorry I offended my Midwestern cousins; despite certain surface differences like politics and style, we are much more similar underneath than different.
Family, friendship, loyalty, honesty, trust, belief in hard work and personal responsibility. Those are among our shared values.
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