Thursday, December 20, 2007

The Algorithms of Lovers



This is a true story.

A middle-aged couple in their 50s are going through a divorce. The man was resisting it, but the woman insisted. Once the legal proceedings were underway, the woman followed her friend's advice and posted to the online dating service match.com , hoping to find a new man to date, and, who knows, maybe more.



As with all such services, match.com asks members to answer a series of questions that its computers then compare for compatibility with another member whose "profile" matches up along the scale of factors believed to be important in whether people will be attracted to one another.



In this case, the woman in question got a severe shock when match.com returned a man who appeared to be her perfect mate.

It was her (soon to be) ex-husband. Yikes!



First of all, she was surprised, given his supposed resistance to the divorce, that he had already uploaded his profile on match.com. Secondly, she wondered, how could they possibly be each other's perfect match when they were in the midst of breaking up?



My own advice, had it been solicited, would have been to consider calling off the divorce, at least long enough to take a romantic vacation somewhere together and make sure splitting is indeed their best option.



As to what will happen to the actual couple in this case, I have no clue, so stay tuned. If I find out, I'll update this post, with an appropriately iterative title.

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Note: Photos above (one) of my son's Varsity team; and (5) from the offices of an intriguing startup I hope to blog about soon...

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