Sunday, May 20, 2012

Fathers

Father's Day will come soon. How much do fathers care about their kids? There are some Dads who must appear heartless in their kids' eyes, due to their absence, or their abuse (which is inexcusable), or their inability to express emotion.

But the great majority of Dads, in my estimation, care a lot, much more than they ever get the chance to demonstrate.

In our and in most cultures, males have never been encouraged to be demonstrative, on an emotional level. We are supposed to be big, tough, strong providers.

But life doesn't always allow us to play our given role.

Sometimes, we are weak, lost, unemployed. Sometimes, we may appear in society's eyes, to be failures. Sometimes, we cannot make our children proud, on any level. We turn out to be flawed on all kinds of levels, and, of course, our children see it all.

Other times, fueled by a desire so primal as to scare even us, as we look into the mirror, we rise to the occasion, save the day, come up with the money or the resources needed to make things right. Then we become heroes, another inappropriate label, although much more satisfying to us.

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1 comment:

Anjuli said...

a post I hope all take to heart. I was privileged to have a wonderful dad- who, although a man of few words, was as dependable as anyone could be! Thankfully my children have had the same- I am forever grateful for my dad and the father my husband has turned out to be!