What the difference is

When you finally get home after a long workday, do you wish you had someone to talk to?

That is, in the end, what spouses provide each other -- someone to share your day to day life with.

When it's working, you both are so devoted to each other that you can provide this kind of loving support almost instinctively. The knowledge that you have a comrade who supports you helps you get up the next day and go back out to engage in the professional battles that otherwise might easily wear you down.

My view of how being in a solid relationship looks like is just this: That you can count on the other person to be there for you to engage in this kind of conversation when you need it most; and, in return, you are there for her/him.

Lots of us fall for other, artificial aspects, such as a license certified by the state, or our religion. But a piece of paper is only as good as the next lighted match.

Love is deeper. If I can confide in you and you can confide in me, we've probably got something pretty special going on. And that makes all the difference...

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